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The negative aspects of overthinking

Even if known by many, the negative aspects of overthinking is ignored in the practical life. Doubt is an interesting concept. It is extremely important to practice doubts , it give us the capacity to evaluate the reality we are living in. From the other side, it is one of the most dangerous threats to our self-esteem. I have been raised in a western culture, in which I’ve been explained that if I cannot explain something it is probably wrong, or even worth, only in my head. This kind of thinking is attached to the evolution of the scholar philosophy of the western culture, in which everything need to be proved, calculable and explained.

To maintain a healthy social order, it is important that a certain line will be created between fiction and reality. But taking this philosophy into extreme practice, is dangerous as any extreme. Life and the universe are working without the need to explain itself, it just works. Humans are not so different, the majority of our activities are done without our need to think, control or explain it. We are breathing, moving seeing, waking up, falling asleep and digesting automatically. Remarkably, action that in the first place require awareness and concentrated, pass to the category of non conscious after a basic mastery is achieved. Good examples for it will be driving, cleaning, playing motor games, riding bikes, walking, talking a new language etc.


Almost everything we are doing in our life is kind of automatic and do not requires our thought or awareness. It is working extremely good by itself. In many cases, the moment we start thinking about things, is the moment the problem starts. Countless time in my life, I have witness it on myself. coming to think about it, the only moment in which life requires from one to be aware of the automatic actions is normally when things are malfunctioning.

The human mind is fascinating and complicated. Our thought and mind are very powerful. We can think about things we never saw and be concerned of things that never really happened. One does not require the proof of researches to know, that over thinking can create the problem from the first place or make a small problem become bigger. In fact, it is safe to say that the majority of the problems an individual living in the west started in his own mind and not oppositely.

Over thinking is a disease. It takes away all of our free time and creativity.There is many things in the life we already know but cannot explain, as we never have the need to explain it. The moment we try, is the moment it becomes complicated.


Our need to explain everything and find “a source” or “a part to blame” comes for our educational system. It is based on our need to control everything around us and find logic in our own existence. My grandmother always told me, “it is important to understand the unknown, but dangerous to be over occupied if no answers exist”.

An education that teach the population to believe they cannot and do not understand the majority of what is going around them, is making them weak, confused and depressed. Each one of us is doing find without thinking about it to much. Mistakes will be done, failure will appear and many questions will not be answers. Overthinking never works, if you know the answer from the first place, you have it. If you cannot explain something, it doesn’t mean you don’t know how to do it.

We need to believe in ourselves and our intuition, it is how we managed to survive for thousands of years. Overthinking is a habit. As such, it is us that decide to practice it and maintain it as part of our life. How long have you spent over thinking in your life? Did overthinking ever made you miserable?

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It is not how many times you fall, it is how fast you get up. Make luck your weapon for success

Have you ever asked yourself why some people are more successful than others? the answer is not obvious. Life is not a straight line. Every domain of our life has ups and downs. Happiness is normally followed by sadness. Somethimes, we are surrounded by people and then alone. We are energetic and then tired. In the reality, this is the meaning of life. If it was not like this, it would just be boring, too predictable and without any fun. It is the uncertainty in life that create romanticism, heroism, faith and hope.

A recent research has proven that in our society, it is not talent that will always bring us to be the most successful. Surprisingly enough, it is neither intelligent, hard work or personal capacity, even if it helps without any doubt. The research showed that the main factor for one individual success is luck. When I encounter this research, my first reaction was to dismiss it with reluctance, as I have been raised in a family that explained me that success is part of the privileges of the smart and hard working people’s.

As any subject that create an immediate reluctance in my head, I decide to take a few moments to think and re-evaluate my opinion. I quickly realized that based on my life experience it actually makes sense. I met many very intelligent people living a very mediocratic life after a few turns in their existence exhaust them and made them decide not to try any longer. Without any doubts, the social system we are living in today, is not build on values as justice and equality of opportunities. For sure there is no direct reward on hard work or good deeds.

From the other side, I met a lot of successful people with a very medium to low level of intelligence or professionalism. Without any doubts, believing that being good in what once is doing will bring one to success, is important for the motivation of any individual and is important for the sake of creating a professional society. From the other side, it does not promise in any case success or riches.

the principal of luck is important almost as the idea of hard work. I come from the retail industry, I own stores and handle with import and trade for almost a decade. I trained endless sales person and consulted a few businesses in my life. I had the pleasure to meet all kind of people with different personal capacity and motivation. My operation spread to many countries in different periods. In all of these experiences, I managed to find a repetitive pattern. It is not the most talented or intelligent people that finish successful, but the most motivated.

Life is random, it is sometime going as plan and many times not. For every good day, some bad days follows. Intelligence, hard work and practice are without any doubt helping one to master his field, which is necessary for any occupation. From the other side, it is self-motivation and positive thinking that brought all the successful people I know to success. They all try and failed. They all saw their dreams shatter by a reality that proved them that they are not the master of their own story. But they got up, fast and with a belief it will work better next time. This is the real secret of success.

The Principle of life is simple –

You need to work hard and aim to be the best in your field. There will always be somebody that perform better. If it does not exist at the moment, it will appear with the time. But as the main factor of your success is luck, it is not how many time you will fall but how fast you will manage to get up and your belief in your capacity to make it happened, that will bring you there. Failure is the key for success. More you try luckier you get.

Thomas Jefferson said: “Harder I work Luckier I get”. Can you see it in your life?

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