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Do we all need a good reason to live?

Is it really important to have a purpose? Many people will say it is. I think it is an important question that need to be asked. Do we really need it? If so, Why? Well, as many other metaphysical questions the answer is quite simple if we examine life itself. There is one thing that is certain in life, it is that it ends at a point. There is nothing good or bad in it, it is how life work. In many ways, this is what make it so valuable. Nevertheless, as life becomes longer and we become more conscious, we understand that it is not death that makes life complicated but the life itself.

The concept of purpose is rooted deep in our society. It is unclear if it came first from our need to explain why we die, or just appeared as a comfortable way to live our life. The easy adaptation of a monotheistic god by the masses has a lot to do with that. In the end of it, the whole concept of the monotheistic god is a big poetic purpose for its adopters. Not only that this unseen entity is controls everything everywhere, it demand from its followers a specific behavior, give them what to hope for and group them under a certain set of believes (which make them a community). It is comfortable and even needed as the majority of us have the need to understand life.

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In an era of individualism and self expression, a of lot of young people has come to be believe that their purpose in life is to retire. In my opinion the reason for that is more related to the fact they don’t really love what they are doing, than the actual wish to retire. There is a big difference between the two. while the first is a real crisis that make us miserable, the second is an empty dream that by itself will not promote our happiness. Just to make this point clear, dreaming about being somewhere else constantly make people more measurable than motivated.

It is an interesting period in our history, as the dominance of a monotheist god has weakened and the concept of nationalism is cracking with the rise of globalization. Not surprisingly, nationalism has arise immediately after the weakening of the god concept. It has many things in common, as it give the same needed answers to many people. Now that the nationalism is cracking down, we are left again with ourselves is a world that is to big to control and a life that is to complicated to understand. So what we do? we hope to be rich and retire. Not having any more responsibility, hoping it will solve our problem.

Interestingly enough, it has been shown by research that many old people that worked all their lives, died shortly after retirement. As a disclaimer, it is true that it is more common with man than woman, but it doesn’t change the argument. Some people get sick, some become measurable and some just die one day. There is a good reason for that.   I will argue that human need a purpose. It is a necessity. Purpose give to people the following:

  • A good reason to wake up in the morning.
  • A feeling of importance.
  • A meaning for the hard days. (they exist in everyone life, even the rich).
  • A connection to the reality, as it drive interaction.
  • A connection to a certain society or community.

To make it simple, it gives to life meaning. As I mentioned previously, human require meaning. Why? probably because we are a social and intellectual animal that hold the capacity of self reflection. In my experience, if you feel measurable or unhappy in your life, it is probably because you didn’t really found a purpose that will feel your life. Think about, it will make a lot of sense.

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The negative aspects of overthinking

Even if known by many, the negative aspects of overthinking is ignored in the practical life. Doubt is an interesting concept. It is extremely important to practice doubts , it give us the capacity to evaluate the reality we are living in. From the other side, it is one of the most dangerous threats to our self-esteem. I have been raised in a western culture, in which I’ve been explained that if I cannot explain something it is probably wrong, or even worth, only in my head. This kind of thinking is attached to the evolution of the scholar philosophy of the western culture, in which everything need to be proved, calculable and explained.

To maintain a healthy social order, it is important that a certain line will be created between fiction and reality. But taking this philosophy into extreme practice, is dangerous as any extreme. Life and the universe are working without the need to explain itself, it just works. Humans are not so different, the majority of our activities are done without our need to think, control or explain it. We are breathing, moving seeing, waking up, falling asleep and digesting automatically. Remarkably, action that in the first place require awareness and concentrated, pass to the category of non conscious after a basic mastery is achieved. Good examples for it will be driving, cleaning, playing motor games, riding bikes, walking, talking a new language etc.

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Almost everything we are doing in our life is kind of automatic and do not requires our thought or awareness. It is working extremely good by itself. In many cases, the moment we start thinking about things, is the moment the problem starts. Countless time in my life, I have witness it on myself. coming to think about it, the only moment in which life requires from one to be aware of the automatic actions is normally when things are malfunctioning.

The human mind is fascinating and complicated. Our thought and mind are very powerful. We can think about things we never saw and be concerned of things that never really happened. One does not require the proof of researches to know, that over thinking can create the problem from the first place or make a small problem become bigger. In fact, it is safe to say that the majority of the problems an individual living in the west started in his own mind and not oppositely.

Over thinking is a disease. It takes away all of our free time and creativity.There is many things in the life we already know but cannot explain, as we never have the need to explain it. The moment we try, is the moment it becomes complicated.

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Our need to explain everything and find “a source” or “a part to blame” comes for our educational system. It is based on our need to control everything around us and find logic in our own existence. My grandmother always told me, “it is important to understand the unknown, but dangerous to be over occupied if no answers exist”.

An education that teach the population to believe they cannot and do not understand the majority of what is going around them, is making them weak, confused and depressed. Each one of us is doing find without thinking about it to much. Mistakes will be done, failure will appear and many questions will not be answers. Overthinking never works, if you know the answer from the first place, you have it. If you cannot explain something, it doesn’t mean you don’t know how to do it.

We need to believe in ourselves and our intuition, it is how we managed to survive for thousands of years. Overthinking is a habit. As such, it is us that decide to practice it and maintain it as part of our life. How long have you spent over thinking in your life? Did overthinking ever made you miserable?

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